Deconstructing Your Fear Reflection Questions

1.  If you pursue your calling with discipline, intentionality, and the help of fellow travelers, what are the chances that your worst case scenario will really happen?

 

My worst case scenarios come, mostly because I haven’t experienced the opposite positive outcome. Enough personal experience has taught me that I have to work extra hard to retain information, stay focused and organized, and have positive executive function because of my epilepsy and ADHD. My brain scares me. But I also have enough evidence that I’m a hard worker, and will always continue to reach high despite the difficulties. 

 

One of my biggest fears is that all the blood, sweat, and tears I’ve poured into NutriThrive Fitness over the past two years won’t result in financial success. While I’m committed to working hard, I tend to work slowly. I get frustrated and stuck when I can’t figure out things like building a sales funnel or navigating new business systems.

 

I’m terrified that I will put relentless effort into various marketing avenues and have none of them produce the clients for my business.

 

And if they do, and I become a booming success. That has me shaking in my boots too! 

 

All that being said, I do have faith that discipline, intentionality and help from coaches and mentors, will help me avoid my worst case scenario of having to rely on working at a big box gym for the rest of my career. 

 

My worst case scenarios are a product of my imagination. I’m sure that plenty of set-backs will still be a part of my future in business. But I don’t believe that permanent failure will be a part of NutriThrive Fitness’ future. 


 

2.  As you look at your list of fears, what themes emerge? What is at the core of what you really fear? Financial ruin? The judgment or disapproval of others? Physical harm? Endangering the ones you love? Embarrassment?

As I look over my list of fears, a few clear themes emerge: fear of inadequacy, fear of rejection, and fear of loss.

At the core, what I really fear is not being enough. Not smart enough, not fast enough, not organized enough, not charismatic or strategic enough to succeed as a business owner. I fear that my limitations, especially those tied to my brain health, will hold me back from building the business I feel deeply called to create.

I also fear being seen and not chosen. That I’ll show up, put myself out there, be vulnerable in my marketing, and still hear crickets. That I’ll give everything I’ve got and be met with silence, or worse - disinterest.

And beneath it all is a fear of wasted effort and time. That I’ll invest years of heart, hustle, and finances into NutriThrive, and never see the return. That I’ll sacrifice time with loved ones, pour out my energy, and still end up having to go back to a job that feels soul-sucking, just to survive. That I’ll miss my window.

So yes, financial instability is a fear, but it’s tightly woven with self-doubt, shame, and a deep craving to know that all this matters—that I matter in this space.

 

 

3.  What is the risk of taking no action – not following your calling? How do you plan to deal with fear when it pops up on your entrepreneurial journey?

 

If I take no action, I risk living in regret. The kind that shows up quietly but persistently—when I see my fitness professional peers living their dream, when I realize I didn’t try hard enough, or when I feel the tug of purpose and know I ignored it.

Not following my calling would mean settling for comfort over growth. I’d likely end up working under someone else’s vision, putting my energy into building their dream instead of mine. I’d still be coaching and helping people, but I’d always wonder what NutriThrive Fitness could’ve become if I had just gone all in.

The risk of not taking action is resentment, self-doubt, and frustration. Not because I failed, but because I didn’t try hard enough for long enough.

When fear pops up on this journey (and it will), I plan to meet it with structure and support:

  • I’ll lean on my systems—calendars, checklists, apps, workflows—to give my ADHD brain the support it needs.
  • I’ll reach out to mentors, coaches, and my community for accountability and perspective.
  • And most importantly, I’ll remind myself that fear is just part of the process—it doesn’t get to steer the ship.

I’d rather stumble in pursuit of my calling than stand still in fear of it. That’s the trade I’m willing to make.

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